I wish I had some friends…
I spent the day looking through my contacts in the cell phone. Except for my family, I realized that every friend in my phone is because of the relationship with my wife. My wife is a beautiful, loving lady. She is funny, smart, hard-working, creative, compassionate, and loving. She is a great cook, has a sick obsession with cleaning the house, she is a Registered Nurse, she teaches child birth classes, she is a master gardener, exercises five times a week, she manages the household including the checkbook, volunteers at both Church and school. She loves to entertain, frequently opening the house up to family and friends. She is a great mother and spouse. In short, she is everything I am not.
Looking back on my life, I see that I have only two true friends. Jason, the guy who introduced me to Metallica and Scott, my buddy up the street who owns a Harley and doesn’t put out any Christmas lights. To be honest, Scott’s wife and my wife are good friends, so I don’t think he counts as a true friend and I haven’t spoken to Jason since the last high school reunion five years ago. I am not sure if he counts either. So I assumed that my writing friends are really my true friends. Big Joe, Julie, Eggie, Swifty, Koji, Becca, Jason, Pastor Jack, Harrison, Karlene, Kris, Nina, Jae, Gina, and Ms. Sunny are all on my short list of my best friends in the world. Unfortunately as I have to be honest with myself. I know that y’all are my true friends, until you meet Donetta. Like everyone else, you will be enchanted by her wonderfulness and you will tolerate me in order to revel in her presence.
I would like to introduce you all to a woman who makes my ideal wife seem very average. Dr. Jenee Walker is one of the Doctors at the Family Resource Center where my wife works. So, yes Dr. Walker is not my friend, she is a friend of my wife. Donetta started working part time at the FRC about five years ago. The first day she worked, she came home and in glowing terms told me about a lady named Dr. Walker.
Over the years, I have enjoyed the pleasure of spending some time with Dr. Walker. I must say that she is quite simply one of the most impressive people I have ever met. She is a Psychiatrist, who works with both children and adults. Considered the top professional in the state of West Virginia, she is literally booked solid from morning to night, Monday to Friday. Families travel to Charleston from all over the state to get an appointment with her. An appointment with her is like a winning lottery ticket.
Dr. Walker has been married since forever. All three of her children are in college. The oldest is in Medical School, the second has just been accepted to Law School and the third is doing great things at the undergraduate level. It is easy to assume that brilliance runs through her family. Not so fast my friends. She grew up in Compton, California, hometown of famous musicians like Ice Cube, Eazy-E, Dr. Dre, and Coolio among others. To a country boy from Memphis, my only experience about that area is from the movie Colors. The Bloods and Crips fighting it out gang style on the streets of LA. Seems like a tough place to grow up.
Raised from hard working, lower middle class parents, Dr. Walker had the only advantages anyone ever needs. A strong sense of self-worth, an attitude of never quitting and approval to live her dream. Just to fight her way out of that environment is a testament to who she is and the type of people her parents are. She finished as the Valedictorian in high school and attended college on a scholarship. She tells a story of her first chemistry test in college. The Professor handed out the tests from highest score to lowest. She was one of the last to get her test back.
The Professor said “That if she wanted to become a doctor, it was a joke. If she wanted to help people she should be a farmer, and grow food.” Beaten down, battered and bruised by that remark she faced a difficult decision. Keep trying or quit. She found the courage to see the professor after class and told him “That whether or not she became a physician was immaterial, but we all deserve to be treated with respect. Then she promised him that when she got her MD, she was going to lay it on his desk!”
That day she planed the flag of determination into the ground. It was a water-shed moment in her life. She had the audacity to declare that day as her finest hour, her score…36%. That my friends is determination.
We all have those moments. I have them and you have them. Every day is a test, every day can be a water-shed moment. Pastor Jack had one three months ago. My friend Emma has another right this second. It is staring her in the face, for a second time in her life. Her husband Steve has one too.
I don’t know what tomorrow brings. It might bring another opportunity for me to stare down life. Like Dr. Walker teaches, I am not afraid because I am covered in blessings. I live in the blood of Jesus and I know without a shadow of doubt that I will defeat any trial. Don’t think I am tempting fate, I am knocking on wood because I prefer my life to be full of misery like the Direct-TV losing its signal and the hot water running warm. I do not live my life in fear. Dr. Walker does not live her life in fear either. She is strong, powerful, brave, intelligent, beautiful, and loving. I have a secret for you, please don’t tell Dr. Walker. Two years ago when I started writing my book, I loosely based the character of Esther on her.
I highly encourage all of you to check out her website. Here is the link:
Do yourself a favor and find thirteen minutes and watch video #2. Then find another thirteen minutes and watch video #3. Finally find eighteen minutes and watch video #1. She has three posts on her blog, with more to follow. Read those and send her a comment on her e-mail. She is working on a book that hopefully will be finished soon. Ms. Sunny, although it is non-fiction, it might be something you’re looking for. Julie, this lady is perfect for your circle of friends. You need to beg her to do a guest post on your place. Kris, I can’t think of a better expert than Dr. Walker. The rest of us can bask in her brilliant ability to inspire.
Keep Rocking Y’all