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Can you help a brother out…

January 15, 2014
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All the water in the world, just cant drink a drop.
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Hey Y’all,

Hello from wild and wonderful West Virginia. Most of you probably don’t know about the chemical spill here in my home state. Last Thursday, a local chemical company had a leak in one of their holding tanks. They accidently released approximately 7,500 gallons of a foaming agent used in the coal mining process into one of the local rivers. Unfortunately for me and over 300,000 other people in the Kanawha Valley, the water treatment plant for the local water provider is a mile downstream from the chemical company. The water company was forced to issue a do not use order to all of their customers, for almost a week we have been limited in our water consumption. If you care, here is a descent story that documents the event. http://www.washingtonpost.com/national/health-science/west-virginia-water-emergency-nears-fifth-day-with-no-end-in-sight/2014/01/12/9d0959bc-7b88-11e3-9556-4a4bf7bcbd84_story.html

Fortunately for all of us, the chemical isn’t lethal except in very high doses so the toilets and fire hydrants are still useable. But you can’t drink it, bath with it, or wash with it. Not a crisis by any stretch of the imagination, but it is very inconvenient. Scotty, my good friend in the Guard told me that if I felt a burning sensation on my backside, it wasn’t herpes. It was the chemical and nothing to worry about.

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Scotty is not a doctor, but he is always willing to play one.
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At this very moment, I am at woman’s house washing the family’s clothes. I basically broke into her house. I drank all of her husband’s moonshine, and took a long hot shower after I snooped through her underwear drawer. I’m bored so now I am writing a post. Yes, all of this is fiction. I am trying to work on crafting stories and this is much more interesting than the truth.

The truth is that this lady and her husband are dear friends of my family. My wife has been friends with this lady for almost 20 years, we vacation with them every summer and my daughter is like a sister with their oldest daughter. Since last week, they have constantly offered their house for showers, laundry dish washing, and anything else we need. So I really didn’t break in, I have the garage code. Like me, her husband doesn’t drink so even if he had moonshine I would not partake; unlike me, he is one of those magical people that honestly lives his Faith. his vice is an affinity for good smelling Yankee Candles. I think she has a nanny cam so I am staying away from the underwear drawer. I’m waving to the camera now, ha ha. All of that is the truth, I swear on the nanny cam.

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For now, I would like to publically thank everyone who has offered their homes, showers, and water to my family. This is the second time in the past couple of years that the state of West Virginia has been impacted by the lack of services. Two summers ago, we suffered an unexpected wind storm called a derecho. It took out the power of the east coast; we were out of power for nine days. We thrived during the event because of so many great friends and family. We were like locust, moving into someone’s home, eating all the food and then leaving a trail of dirty dishes in our wake. This disaster we are water sluts. We walk in, talk sweet, remove our clothes, take what we want, and leave with no promise that we will ever call again. I am amazed that we have any friends left.

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If your not going to eat the rest of this banana…
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It is only when problems come into our lives do we find out that people are still good, loving, and welcoming. In my neighborhood, I drive too fast down my street, I hit the garage door opener three houses away, pull in and close the door without waving to anyone. My neighbors are the same way because we all live in our own little worlds. But when something happens to a neighbor or the entire community, we collectively pull together and help cope with the issues at hand. I know I talk big sometimes, but the reality is that we all need each other. We all need community and we all need friendships. Not so when something happens we can get free stuff. We need friends so that when something happens in their life, we can be there to make their lives better. That is where true self-worth is found.

I have a couple of on line blogger friends who have been reporting that there is an increased rise in suicides in our veteran community. My blogger friend, Padre Steve told about his former commander who shot himself last week. This particular veteran was a true warrior, the former Commander of the Navy EOD (Explosive, Ordinance, Disposal) forces. These guys are no joke. I worked with them several times when I was in the Air Force. I am sure we are all familiar with the Navy S.E.A.L.s. These guys went through the exact same training but call themselves gaskets, as opposed to seals. They are bad dudes in every sense of the word.

 

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Before Iraq kicked off, I spent a week in Norfolk, VA at the Naval Air Station. Our mission was to get up before dawn and load a team of these quiet professionals onto the airplane. A couple of times they had their fast attack boats on board, sometimes they had a rubber raiding craft, a couple of days it was just them with a set of flippers. We would fly out over the water at 9,999 feet to a distance between five and fifteen miles. Why not 10,000 feet you might ask, because at 10,000 feet we all have to breathe oxygen and no one likes doing that. At one foot below the mandatory oxygen level, these guys would say good bye and jump out. We would stay overhead until they called to report they were all okay. We went to eat breakfast and get a tan on the beach. They swam back.

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Jumping out. Note the fins, they are going to be swimming.
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They spent the week jumping out and swimming back, all the while wondering the entire time how could life be any better? I didn’t know Captain Sitsch, but I once met several men who were list like him. Here is the link to Padre Steve’s site documenting his friendship with Navy Captain Tom Sitsch. http://padresteve.com/2014/01/09/a-foreign-world-the-high-cost-of-coming-home-from-war/

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Rubber raiding craft, better known as a zodiac.
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When I hear a story about one of these guys taking his own life. I take notice. Captain Sitsch was dealing with something serious. The myth is that these guys don’t feel anything, that they are robots and can kill us all with the snap of their fingers. The truth is they are human too. They have seen things that most of us could never comprehend. But they are not alone, in your community right now, there is a Veteran of Iraq or Afghanistan that has PTSD. It is a fact and you might be uniquely positioned to help that person. You might not have a military background but do not discount what role you can have in the healing process. They need to know that someone cares. You care, show them that you care. Don’t just say that you are proud of them. Maybe some vets like that, I don’t. Many of the things I did, I don’t take pride in. I was just doing my job, nothing more. The person you know was just doing a job. Don’t say anything, show them.

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Sometimes all you need is a friend.
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Ask them what time of year they deployed. The odds are that period of time is when they are the most vulnerable. My tough time is the spring time, March through April then it gets better as the summer approaches. I wish I knew why, but that is when I am the most irritable. By the way, I don’t think I have PTSD, I don’t think I have a small touch of it. I do know that for those people who really have it, it is serious. Back to the people you know, you can ask them if there is a time of year they are anxious or nervous. If like me, it is a specific time of year then make an extra effort to call them or invite them over for a cookout. Be their friend. Ask them to tell stories about their experiences, don’t be afraid. Ask them. They will tell you, I promise.

Just be a friend to them and to their family. Their families suffered while they were gone. They need the love of a neighbor just as much as the Veteran does. If you think your Vet needs to speak with someone, encourage them to contact someone. If they don’t know anyone, don’t have a computer, a cell phone and they live in a van down by the river. Get in touch with me; I am glad to talk to anyone, anytime, anywhere. I can’t speak for Padre Steve, but I know he feels exactly the same. Anyone, anytime, anywhere. Padre Steve listed some resources for the Vets. http://padresteve.com/2014/01/11/the-enduring-crisis-suicides-in-veterans-spiking/

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Everyone needs a lift from time to time
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I recently found another blogger who is publically dedicating herself to the battle with PTSD. I don’t know her name, where she lives or anything else about her other than she is a vet, but I speak for her too. Anyone, anytime, anywhere. You can view her story and blog at this link. http://icombatstress.com/2014/01/14/how-certain-events-in-iraq-changed-me/

I know there are millions veterans in the United States and we were all trained to give all for our buddies in uniform. No matter the age of the Vet, 100 to 18. We are all out here and we all care for each other. If you have a cookout for your neighbor, invite anyone else you know who served. They will recognize each other, they will talk and maybe they will be able to help each other out. The important thing is to help our current Vets find a path through their struggles and even more important is that they know they are not alone.

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Two of a kind…
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My laundry is finished so this rant must end. Please let your Vet friends know you are around and that you care. One step at a time and maybe collectively we can prevent another life ended too soon. Until next time, keep on rockin’.

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17 Comments
  1. An excellent piece of writing my friend. You should write a book. Thank you for helping to bring more awareness to our Veterans. Each one a hero. Your sense of humor makes me smile :)

    • Thank you very much Ms. I Combat Stress.

      I am trying to write a book so your perceptional skills are sharp. I hope you find me writing style to be a mixture of sarcasm, wit, self-deprecating humor mixed with a touch of seriousness. I have a soft spot for those who are under appreciated, those who are beat down and an intense hatred of those who take advantage of their position in life. The only fool I suffer is myself, ha ha.

      Stop by as you like, make your self at home and feel free to comment as you wish. All views are welcome here.

      • Well I can’t wait to read your book. Good luck to you with it. I am sure it will help many people. And keep up the humor it keeps me laughing. You are like me, I always support the underdog, the misfits, outcasts, the abandoned, and all those who need a touch of hope.

      • I do always support the underdog, misfits, outcasts, abandoned and those who need hope because I am a founding member of all those groups. These are my people.

        Keep smiling!

  2. Reblogged this on icombat-stress and commented:
    An excellent piece of writing in regard to our Veterans. Please take the time to read it. Thank you.

  3. First, glad you’re back!
    Second, thank you for the honest advice about how to reach out to Veterans. I have a friend who’s a Chaplin in the Air Force and he said the highest cause of suicide is relationship problems. Many of us regular citizens don’t know what to do to help out Vets. We’re afraid of offending them, shy, or just really unsure. Posts like this really help! Thanks!
    Third….from a woman who’s brother was a Tanker and uncle was a Marine….this is why we make fun of the Air Force…. ;-) Back to tanning….rofl!

    • Abby,

      First, thank you. I am glad to be back.

      Second, Vets are people too. Most of the advice I gave is encouragement/motivation to myself so that I will get out of my little world and be a better friend.

      Third, It isn’t my fault that your brother and Uncle were just too tough to be in the Air Force. Only the few and lazy can be trained to sit by the pool with the wireless internet while enjoying a drink with a umbrella. I guess they couldn’t cut it.

      As always thanks for saying hi.

      • Rofl!!!!! Oh dear.
        No. In all serious, we’re thankful for the air force….y’all bring the bombs. :) and the SEALS and the EOD guys. :)

      • I’m the one rolling on the floor laughing (I think that is what rofl means. I am not a texter and I’m not cool like you.). I am hoped up on cold meds and sweet tea. I am slightly out of control this morning.

        All we did was give the Bad Dudes a ride. They did all the heavy lifting.

  4. A friend of mine lives in WV and put out a call on her Facebook account for anyone who needed a clean and safe place to shower. It’s so good of people to reach out and help. What a situation!

    When I worked at the local college, I worked with students with disabilities. The last several years I was there, we saw an increase in the number of vets who needed assistance– the tragedies ranged from physical disabilities resulting from injury to emotional and mental disabilities, many rooted in PTSD. Always the tragedy for me was how young most these kids were.

    I always feel such a strong sense of our country’s and my personal obligation to help any vets. I hope and think I’m not alone in this. I’m sure the brotherhood among vets is fiercely strong. Really, who else knows those shoes as well?

    • Julie,

      I thank your friend for opening up her home to others. We are all so blessed but it does no good if we are not willing to share our blessings.

      As a point of reference, when you were in your mid twenties, they were not young. But I guess you are like me, twenty-nine and now everyone looks young. Ha ha.

      Seriously, thank you for looking out for others. Everyone has something. A person with a disability, a Vet, or a regular person who has a son recovering from cancer. We all hurt from life because from time to time, life is painful. The tragedy is when we give in to that pain. It isn’t about walking in someone else’s shoes because we all wear the same ill fitting shoes. We think it is but really, we are all familiar with life. Anyone can help anyone, we just have to be willing to help.

      Thank you for everything you do for the good people in your community. I know you are reaching hearts and minds because of your online presence as well. You are a wonderful person and I am happy that you grace my little side of the world with a wonderful comment from time to time.

  5. .jso. permalink

    Hi! I don’t usually comment here, but want you to know that I truly appreciate your post. I’ve only recently been made very painfully aware of what’s been going on in the veteran world. I never really understood it, or felt like it mattered to me.

    I’d say more but you’ve done a really wonderful and thought-provoking job here. It’s a crazy world out there and we all need to be lookin out for each other. Esp for those who’ve looked out for us. Thanks, on multiple counts.

    • Jso,

      Thank you for stopping by and saying hi. Know that you are always welcome, please make yourself at home.

      I truly appreciate the wonderfully kind comments. I know how you feel because I am there with you. I stay silent when I should say something and I look away because to do otherwise is uncomfortable. There is nothing that a Vet has seen that is off limits to the rest of us. Because as you say, it is a crazy world out there. And no matter who you are, you have a life experience that is relatable to anyone else. Life is the common dominator between all of us.

      I hope that the Vet in your life finds the comfort they may need. Like I said, I am here for anyone. If you think they might open up please have them contact me. I will reply to them off line, in private using secure communications. Just me, your Vet, and the NSA. It is all good between friends. Ha ha.

      Again, thanks for saying hi.

  6. Rob, this is beautiful and very helpful. One of my soldiers has severe PTSD (along with other combat wounds) and I am going to send him this post. I don’t know if he will reach out but I DO know it will make him happy to see your advice. Genuine, thoughtful action (even a cook-out invite) has power. And anything or anyone that helps “his brothers” helps him too. Thank you!

    • Thank You Gina,

      I hoped that you would see this post. You are in a very unique position to know so many troops and just as uniquely positioned to be able to have a voice that is separate and apart from their normal channels of communication. This is because you care and you show that you care by your actions.

      I thank you for everything you do!

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